You're involved in a lot of social causes. Is it protocol or are you really involved in all of them?
The NGOs I'm associated with are an integral part of my life. I am working with UNICEF as an advocate for child education and child protection and I'll be working intensively in its campaign against corporal punishment.
I recently filmed Chuppee, a short feature sponsored by UNIFEM, to raise awareness about CSA (child sexual abuse). My work with RAHI, set up to stop CSA started way back, when I played the traumatised protagonist of the play 30 Days in September, sponsored by RAHI.
So you believe child abuse affects a man's sexual identitiy later in life. How is that possible?
For male survivors, the biggest hurdle in the way of healing is their reluctance to talk about it. Majority of men are conditioned to identify themselves as aggressive and powerful rather than passive and helpless. In our culture, a 'real' man is expected never to be a 'victim,' but to protect himself and deal with it "like a man". He is expected to avenge or forget the hurt and move on, lest he be seen as a "coward." Acknowledging that he was sexually abused becomes a major threat to a man's masculinity. (If the man was abused by an older woman as a child, the myth is -- he ought to have been sexually eager and willing. In case he was abused by a man, there's concern about being labeled as gay.)
To avoid seeing themselves as victims, men never break the silence; instead, they act out in ways that make it extremely difficult for them to have functional relationships. Some get unhealthily aggressive, some become homophobic, almost all experience great confusion over their sexual identities and orientation. Disastrously, masculinity and power often get confused with abusiveness.
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